How do you know what to write and how to write it?
Sometimes, I have the hardest time figuring out what words to put down and how to really express myself.
I’m pretty animated when I talk. Maybe a bit too much. I talk with my hands and make faces, and I love getting into telling a story.
I’ve been known to break into reciting a scene from Tommy Boy or Superstar. Or imitating people when sharing stories, trying my hardest to copy their voices and mannerisms. But there’s no good way to “talk with my hands” when I’m typing, you know? So how do I find a writing voice that is authentic and close to how I communicate in person?
Is it possible?
I don’t want to use big words that have never come out of my mouth or type other things that I never, ever say in real life either.
I mean, I’m not very cool. Never have been, actually.
I was always the teacher’s pet, the bookworm, the dependable girl-next-door. I used to make up my own word searches and crossword puzzles – and then do them myself. For fun. Sometimes I’m not sure why other kids liked me.
I can’t say things like “a’ight” or “biznass” without sounding and feeling ridiculous. I also can’t dance, but that’s another story for another time.
I realize we all have our own writing voice and it may be different than our speaking voice and mannerisms…but I love my speaking voice and mannerisms!
Last summer, I received one of the best compliments: someone thinks I’m a great storyteller. And I love that.
But I know there’s a disconnect in how I tell stories in person and how I write them down. Sure, I can get the story out and have the same details, but it’s tough for me to figure out how to get the same effect.
Maybe I’m just a better storyteller in person because I love seeing people’s reactions?
I love seeing the light in someone’s eyes when they’re really engaged and interested in what’s going on. The way they lean forward when they’re waiting to hear what happened next.
And the laughing. If I get a big belly laugh from someone, that makes my day – makes my week! Those throw-your-head-back, lose-your-breath laughs are what keep me going.
I guess it just takes time to find and refine your writing voice, right? Maybe I need close friends and family to help with this because they’ve seen me doing the Tommy Boy scene (probably more than once).
Tell me I’m not alone – do you have a tough time writing in a way that feels similar to how you actually communicate in real life?